"Have dinner together after class!" "Let’s go and see the latest movie!" "Alas, I’m going to be late again at 8 am. Fortunately, I have you with me." These dialogues frequently appear in the daily life of young people today, and they represent a new social way, which is called a partner. Fitness partner, idolize partner, reading partner … In a specific field, today’s young people are looking for suitable partners. This "directional" social demand has become the basis for them to find partners, and it has also given birth to the cultural circle of partners. Different from ordinary friends, partner is a new social way established between young people based on common interests or goals, which provides more flexible and targeted social choices.

Young people make an appointment to study, exercise and idolize together.

"What kind of person can be a partner?" Many young people’s answers are: like me, easy to get along with, easy to make an appointment with.

"Go to the cycling class tonight, and see you at seven o’clock." Awei wants to lose weight, but he is afraid that he lacks motivation, so he finds himself a fitness partner-Xiao Xiao, who loves cycling and fitness.

The university gym has a cycling class every night. As long as it’s okay, Xiaoxiao basically exercises in rain or shine. "It’s not just to lose weight, but really to like and enjoy the feeling brought by exercise." Xiaoxiao’s mentality also affects Awei.

Before each cycling class, the two will talk about sports and fitness, and Awei will also bring some zero-calorie sports drinks to Xiaoxiao. "Awei is very qualified as a fitness partner." When Xiaoxiao occasionally wants to steal laziness, Awei will also call her to take a group class.

"This is the meaning of fitness partners, mutual encouragement, supervision and sharing of exercise experience and status." Xiaoxiao said, slowly, apart from the topics of fitness, study and life, the two will also talk, so Awei is now not only her fitness partner, but a good friend. "We are in a very comfortable social and communication state." Xiao Xiao said.

Baa Baa is an avid fan of reasoning and an iron fan of Keigo Higashino. Whenever there is a new book on reasoning, she calls her own "book partner" sweet bean-another one who is addicted to reading mystery novel’s Keigo Higashino powder, and always goes to the bookstore to read the physical book at the first time.

For these book partners, their basic point of getting along is the same interest, so they are more like each other’s "spiritual partners".

"In the impetuous times, Sweet Bean is the one who can accompany me to calm down." Baa Baa thinks that the most important thing to find a "spiritual partner" is to know yourself. "When others are mostly brushing short videos, it is a very fortunate thing that I can share my psychological space and spiritual world with the’ spiritual partner’." Baa baa said.

Xiaohe is chasing a Korean men’s team’s talent show recently. Two days ago, she found a "idolize partner"-Little Magic Fairy. Xiao Moxian is a good friend of Xiaohe’s roommate. Xiaohe will often share her idolize experience with her roommate. Xiao Moxian will also send a lot of information about this program to Xiaohe’s roommate, but Xiaohe’s roommate doesn’t watch this program at all, so he decides to build a group by "bridging" and let Xiaohe and Xiao Moxian chat in the group.

"Partner" does not mean that the functional needs of close friends are greater than emotional dependence.

Some people equate partners with good friends, while others think that partners and close friends are still different concepts, which need to be tested by time at least.

In a certain internship experience, Guagua met many interns of his own age. After work, everyone will get together to eat and chat. After getting to know each other, they will organize activities together on weekends. As a result, Guagua has a group of playmates. After the internship, everyone kept in touch and often asked out to play.

When talking about the criteria for choosing a partner, Guagua said: "First of all, be sincere, secondly be interesting, and thirdly be in tune." Guagua believes that the partner is a kind of friend, and friends may not be interested in doing everything together, but the partner belongs to a more vertical field.

This year, Guagua and his playmates have been to the West Lake, Lingyin Temple, Shililangya, Liangzhu and Lanxin Grand Theatre together, experienced the nightlife of livehouse together, and also went to Zhejiang University to experience other people’s campus life together. Among them, what impressed her deeply was that this group of playmates accompanied her to spend two birthdays in the lunar calendar and the solar calendar. "Friends who feel very in tune can explore more possibilities, such as a meal partner, a performance partner, or a travel partner." Guagua said.

In baa baa’s view, friends and partners do not conflict. Compared with the function of friends, partners are more inclined to a certain range.

"In terms of communication content, the content of my chat with my partner is limited to things related to love beans, so strictly speaking, we are not friends." In Xiaohe’s view, the partner relationship only carries a small part of her daily life, while for friends, she will share more trivial content about eating, fitness, learning and distress.

"Besides, I have different requirements for friends and partners." Xiaohe said that he will ask more of his friends, such as being able to respond positively in intimate relationships, being firmly chosen, being specially favored and so on. In contrast, Xiaohe doesn’t have much emotional dependence on partners.

"Social boundaries" are clearer and will not "invade" life too much.

When talking about children, many young people mentioned the "social boundary"-this kind of social interaction that can share hobbies without "invading" life too much, making young people feel more comfortable.

"The so-called sense of social boundaries is the measure of social interaction." During the interview, Linlin said that she had a quarrel with her roommate recently. "My roommate and I had a good relationship before, and we got along with proper limit." But gradually, she found that her roommate would casually use her things without saying hello because they were particularly familiar with each other. "Sometimes when I call my family, she will keep interrupting and pointing fingers at my life. I think this is quite lacking in a sense of social boundaries. After all, what you think is kind, I may not be able to accept it. " Linlin said that now she is eager to find a "shared partner" to ensure that the social interaction between the two sides is kept within a reasonable boundary.

When talking about the sense of social boundary, Xiaohe thinks that the sense of social boundary involves respect. Out of respect, "partner" socialization also needs to take into account the other person’s favorite mode of getting along. If you advance, you will advance, and if you retreat, you will retreat. Don’t impose your thoughts and expectations on others, and you should also accept the unequal situation in social interaction.

Because what I am looking for is idolize’s partner, Xiaohe has three requirements in selecting the partner’s criteria: first, the partner’s personal criteria. "If I am a fan, I must choose someone who loves beans as much as I like." Secondly, it is the communication standard between partners. "The three views of partners need to be similar to mine, and the expression should not be too extreme, otherwise there will be contradictions easily, and idolize will not be happy." Finally, the emotional replacement standard before the partner: "We need to be able to convey emotional value to each other, communicate and replace each other, so that we can last for a long time."

"Everyone is a puzzle with different shapes, and sometimes it is a good choice to stop at a nodding acquaintance." Xiaohe believes that friends are people who are consistent with their own choices in repeated choices. If they obviously feel different from each other’s choices, the boundaries will actually emerge. After seeing the border, don’t expect the other party to forcibly change for yourself, and don’t force two people to walk together.

Cherish the established friendship and don’t want to be downgraded to "a friend who likes it"

On social networks, many students distributed "recruitment posts for partners": "begging for food partners" and "begging for coffee partners", and some students searched for the most suitable partners through a series of precise scale calculations.

After a day’s study, Le Yuan returned to the dormitory. He lay in bed and turned on social software. The news column is full of private messages from a group of small sweet potatoes. "Hello, classmate, can you take me to go shopping? I can also take you to visit my school! " "I’ll add one for you. People’s University alumni can enter the school, and now it’s ok to invite relatives and friends."

Le Yuan is a graduate student of China Geo University, and now he is also a campus blogger, posting and summarizing the fresh information of major universities in Beijing in real time, such as the school’s entry and exit regulations, whether relatives and friends can be invited to visit the school, and so on.

"I am an INFP (mediator), with an introverted personality and few friends at school. I usually eat and attend classes alone. " Le Yuan said that the significance of doing this at first was that he wanted to visit other schools and establish contact with more people. Find your own "partner" by the way.

Le Yuan’s only requirement for the partner is that "the other party should be sincere to himself". After getting in touch with the partner, Le Yuan will issue a questionnaire to the partner, asking him to what extent he wants to be a friend with him, and then divide him into a grade in his mind according to his wishes.

"If you fill in an A, then I will treat you as my A, and often take the initiative to chat with you and share my thoughts with you. But this level is not fixed: if you fill in a questionnaire, but you always don’t reply to my message and ignore my love, I will lower you to B in my heart. "

In the eyes of Le Yuan, there is no difference between a partner and a friend. Le Yuan said that in the process of finding a partner, he found that many people are willing and can really become friends with themselves. Leyuan cherishes the friendship he has established with his partners, and is unwilling to easily downgrade them to "a friend who likes them". He even set up a "system" for himself to maintain his partners: he should chat with friends of grade A at least once a week. "This is the minimum standard."

The more partners he contacts, the more comfortable he becomes in making friends. "When I was an undergraduate, a girl invited me to dinner to thank me for my help. At that time, I didn’t dare to sit next to her, I didn’t dare to look at her all the time, and I didn’t even dare to talk to her. "

Now, Leyuan has many "partners". A few days ago, Le Yuan made an appointment with two "partners" of Beijing Forestry University, and the three met in the landmark building of "Heart of the Forest" in Beilin to visit the campus together.

Leyuan’s partners are all over Beijing’s major universities. Regardless of boys and girls, "if you have more dealings, you will let go. Slowly, we will also discuss some emotional topics, and there is basically no gap between us."

conversation

Contemporary young people are more pursuing weak relationships and less socializing.

As an associate professor in the School of Humanities of Zhejiang University of Technology, Zhou Qiong is also the deputy director of the Center for Film and Television Communication and New Media Research. He has been engaged in cultural communication, new media and social research all the year round, and has a unique understanding of youth social relations in the Internet age. The reporter of Beiqing Daily interviewed Dr. Zhou Qiong about the social and cultural transformation reflected by young people looking for partners.

Beiqing Daily: Are there many young people looking for partners in universities?

Zhou Qiong: I have noticed that there are many partners in the school, ordering takeout and going to the canteen together. Self-study partners in the library; During the postgraduate entrance examination, three or two people form a postgraduate entrance examination partner and get up early in the group to punch in … There are many such phenomena in the student group.

Beiqing Daily: What’s the difference between a partner and classmates and friends?

Zhou Qiong: The partner is more like a state of "being higher than classmates and not having enough friends". It is based on the relationship between specific scenes and specific functions, and it emphasizes quick success. Compared with partners, friends are more detailed, know each other’s needs and preferences, and accumulate friendship over time.

Beiqing Daily: Some people regard partners as a substitute for intimacy. What do you think this mentality shows?

Zhou Qiong: The new generation of young people have a strong sense of self, which is also an important feature of today’s young people. Many people don’t want to be wronged in a relationship. If they agree, they will come, and if they disagree, they will pay more attention to their inner experiences and feelings. This is a very different point from previous young people.

Beiqing Daily: What do you think of this more directional social demand?

Zhou Qiong: In the fast-paced era, people are more eager for quick-acting light socialization and weak relationships. With the rapid development of society, "efficiency" is the first priority, production needs efficiency, and relationships also need a quick sense of efficiency. Young people begin to pay more attention to the functionality of making friends. There is a "weak relationship theory" in communication science-the relationship between two people can maintain a specific relationship in some scenes, which can not only provide each other with necessary support, but also withdraw at any time without paying all their energy to maintain a relationship. Partner culture fits well with the theory of weak relationship.

After the whole society is running at a high speed, measuring society with refined indicators has caused changes in people’s social relations. People will calculate the social cost and consider whether it is worthwhile, so they will choose more efficient light socialization.

Beiqing Daily: What kind of interpersonal communication trend does the partner culture reflect?

Zhou Qiong: I feel that young people are becoming more and more pragmatic in making friends, and there is a tendency to be lazy in social interaction. Young people are more rational in social interaction, which will cost less to individuals at the emotional level. This is also an inevitable stage for the relationship between people in the period of rapid social development-people are becoming more and more cautious about their emotional contribution. This is also reflected in young people’s love. Now many people don’t want to go through the process of love. After the heartbeat, some people will choose to stop their feelings at the best stage and get away with it. They don’t want to let the daily necessities in the future destroy the feeling of their initial heartbeat.

Beiqing Daily: In reality, there are also cases where partners have evolved into lovers. What is the difference between today’s new intimate relationship creation path and the past?

Zhou Qiong: Of course, this is also a path. It is said that from partners to lovers, from partners to close friends, the process of getting along with each other is greatly shortened, which will enable young people to meet the right people faster. On the other hand, it also shows that the social "suitable" culture is more popular among young people. In the past, people would think that young people like to break through the secular world and reject the traditional concept of marriage and love. However, in one of our surveys, we found that today’s young people are more willing to get along with each other in all aspects: ideological communication and material matching are needed to achieve emotional hit it off, and they think that such marriage and love is a relatively stable state. From this perspective, it is difficult for two people with different status to overlap in the scene of love-this is also a new thinking brought by the "partner culture". Young people emphasize commonness and find people who are suitable for their three views through the partner culture.

(The interviewee in the article is a pseudonym)

　　Yu Long, chairman and famous conductor of beijing music festival Arts Council, and cellist Yo Yo Ma and sheng player Wu Tong.

　　The 21st beijing music festival with the theme of "Enjoying Chinese and Western Music, New Voices of the Times" was held as scheduled in the golden autumn. A new Chinese drama Farewell My Concubine, which has unique cultural elements in China, opened this music festival, and the subsequent companion "The Orphan of Zhao" made the audience feel refreshed. This year, people found that, unlike the past, which focused on displaying western classic works and focusing on international famous masters, this year’s beijing music festival not only promoted the "China concept" to an unprecedented level, but also injected richer connotations into this artistic concept through bold exploration.

　　For the first time, the "companion piece" of the new Chinese drama was launched.

　　The theme of China runs through this music festival.

　　At the closing concert in beijing music festival in 2017, composer Chen Qigang’s new violin concerto "Sorrow and Joy" became famous, and the "China Concept" was the perfect ending of the 20-year music festival. A year later, at the opening ceremony of the 21st beijing music festival, Farewell My Concubine, which contains the charm of China’s classic culture, made the "China Concept" shine again on the stage of the music festival.

　　Beijing music festival, whose mission is to spread and popularize classical music and elegant art on the stage in China, has never forgotten its responsibility and mission as an art institution in China for many years, that is, to introduce the world’s fine music art to the audience, but also to let the world know the achievements of China’s music development. From last year’s closing concert, which ended with the works of Chen Qigang, a representative contemporary composer in China, to this year’s opening of the new national drama by Chen Shi-Zheng, an outstanding overseas Chinese artist, beijing music festival realized the cross-year relay of the "China concept".

　　Moreover, only one day after Farewell My Concubine, another musical theater, Orphan of Zhao, made a dazzling appearance. In this musical theater work sung by foreign artists in English, China’s story and China’s elements were highlighted in an extremely novel and modern way. This comprehensive form, without asking about China and the West, can be called beijing music festival’s extremely bold attempt in the field of "China concept". With the emergence of these two works, the repertoire of the music festival, which used to be occupied by western classical operas, has become a stage for the full bloom of the "China concept" this year.

　　Similarly, this year’s beijing music festival held a concert of China’s works with the theme of "Embracing the New Era", and made sincere contributions to the 40th anniversary of the reform and opening up, including the works of the older generation of China composers such as Chen Peixun and Bao Yuankai, and a symphony suite "Embracing the New Era" arranged to commemorate the 40th anniversary of the reform and opening up, including In the Field of Hope, Pearl of the Orient, I Love You China and so on.

　　At the closing concert of this year’s music festival, the "China concept" once again became the highlight. Following the invitation of Vengerov, a world-famous violinist, to present Chen Qigang’s new work "Sorrow and Joy", Ma Youyou, a world-renowned Chinese cellist, was invited to perform "Wandering for Pipa, Cello and Orchestra" by composer Zhao Lin, a new work commissioned by New York Philharmonic, Hangzhou Philharmonic Orchestra and beijing music festival, which was based on China’s classical masterpiece "Wandering" by Zhuangzi, and was full of China traditional cultural elements.

　　It can be said that in this beijing music festival, the "China Concept" runs through and blooms everywhere, and has been promoted to an unprecedented level. Besides the unprecedented increase in the proportion of performances, China’s concept has a different embodiment from previous music festivals in terms of connotation, value, form and extension.

　　Hai na Bai chuan explores new artistic concepts

　　Create an upgraded version of "China Concept 2.0"

　　Since the concept of China was first put forward in 2002, it has become the most important core value of beijing music festival. From the beginning, Chinese composers Ye Xiaogang and Chen Qigang, who are well-known at home and abroad, held special concerts on the stage of the music festival, to the beginning of domestic opera performances, Guo Wenjing’s operas "Diary of a Madman", "Banquet", "Poet Li Bai" and "Gambling for Life", which were highly praised in Europe, returned to the China stage, and then to Zhou Long’s "Legend of the White Snake" and "Nine Songs" and "Ping Pong" in recent years.

　　With the extraordinary years that beijing music festival has gone through for 20 years, the "China concept" is also facing the task of upgrading and bringing forth new ideas. It is against this background that the theme of this year’s Music Festival is "Music Meeting the New Voices of Chinese and Western Times", which is the first time in the history of the Music Festival to take China elements and China background as the themes, so that China elements can be integrated into the world music map under the background of globalization with an innovative attitude, and further exploration can be sought under the concept of "China concept".

　　Different from the whole Kunqu Opera Peony Pavilion and Peach Blossom Fan, which were released in early music festivals, Farewell My Concubine, a new Chinese drama, fuses Peking Opera with the modern art stage, giving China culture wings to soar over the times, while its companion, Orphan of Zhao, adorns the ancient and vivid story of China with international cutting-edge artistic elements, which can be described as spanning ancient and modern times, both at home and abroad, and is inclusive. The two works not only break away from the traditional artistic vocabulary, but also contain profound artistic conception and spirit of traditional culture.

　　Many years ago, both works were successful when they were performed overseas, and they were regarded as models of combining China charm with western aesthetics, which had already surpassed the original appearance and category of China’s concept. If we say that beijing music festival used to interpret the concept of China only by China’s works, today he has stood in the perspective of globalization and reshaped the artistic value of the "China concept".

　　Coincidentally, in addition to the works themselves, in recent years, under the guidance of "China concept", beijing music festival has paid more and more attention to outstanding Chinese artists, and has surpassed the traditional music art field.

　　Chen Shi-Zheng, the director artist who shines on the stage of this year’s music festival, is the most typical example. His high-profile appearances of Farewell My Concubine and Orphan of Zhao conveyed beijing music festival’s hope that more works of "China Concept" will be returned to the nest and Chinese artists will go home. It is also based on this that the Music Festival regards outstanding China artists around the world as a valuable asset. On the night of the performance of Orphan of Zhao, this year’s annual artist award was awarded to director Chen Shi-Zheng, which is also an affirmation of the brand-new upgrade and new start of the "China concept".

　　Don’t forget the initial mission

　　Create a new situation in art

　　Today, beijing music festival has become an important window for the capital cultural stage to spread elegant art and promote cultural exchanges between China and foreign countries. Today’s development achievements are inseparable from the background of the deepening of reform and opening up and the further growth of the country’s soft power. At the same time, in the past two decades, beijing music festival has grown with the increasing influence of China in the world, and has also put forward new requirements for its own development.

　　Nowadays, the world is changing rapidly. Our country, as always, upholds the concept of multilateral development and the value of globalization. It is the special mission of the upgraded "China Concept Version 2.0" to create the value of China, tell the story of China and convey the voice of China in the context of globalization.

　　Whether it’s the new Chinese drama Farewell My Concubine, the companion piece of the musical theater Orphan of Zhao, or the theme concert of "Silk Road Trip" jointly created by Chinese artists at home and abroad, it shows that beijing music festival is standing in a new historical stage and trying to spread the vision of China value, China story and China voice together with artists, creators and art institutions from all over the world, and build a 21st century through the theme of "China concept". This is a positive practice of "strengthening cultural exchanges between China and foreign countries, taking me as the main factor, taking everything into consideration, promoting the construction of international communication ability, telling the story of China well, showing a true, three-dimensional and comprehensive China, and improving the country’s cultural soft power".

　　Now, beijing music festival, which has gone through 20 years of development, stands in front of new historical opportunities, will never forget its initial mission, constantly open up a new situation, and forge ahead courageously on the broad artistic road of "China Concept" to create new achievements.